Breaking bad dating patterns
And everything you have tried like: Doesn’t seems to get through to him to love you and be with you again.He’s shut down from you completely and isn’t open at all like he used to be before he left and everything that led up to it, and you’re more confused about how he feels than ever.So many of us seem to repeat the same relationship cycles over and over again throughout our lives. Here are 5 ways to challenge those bad patterns so you can focus on attracting Godly relationships. And while they often go disguised for a while, when the pattern finally rears its ugly design, we’re left wondering what’s wrong with us. These relationships felt amazing at first because they were so intense but before I knew it I was back into an old pattern. Now that I look back I can see how I missed a lot of clues.They look different at first, but before we know it we’re right back where we were however many years ago, dealing with issues we’ve prayed to put behind us. So what are some of the warning signs for your pattern? Wasn’t he basically the same guy you dated three years ago? What behaviors have these relationships brought out in you, time and time again? What emotions were these relationships triggering for you? Didn’t you just date a guy who brought out these same exact issues a few months ago? What were some telltale warning signs that you missed early on but can now easily identify?You can’t figure out whether he thinks about you or doesn’t care.
It is another manifestation of their supreme self-centeredness as well as a protection for their fragile ego.
No amount of sexy underwear, cooking, prancing around like a performing seal and contorting myself into a pretzel in an attempt to be pleasing, was gonna fix my love life.
So, I started looking within, asking questions, compassionately exploring my past, road-testing ideas, letting go of baggage so that I could allow myself to heal, letting myself get the right support - basically allowing me to take steps every day to grow my self-esteem and person avoid what I went through and I could support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling ‘not good enough’, to name but a few, then I knew I was making a difference. For more than a decade, I’ve been sharing, not just insights and observations from my own journey, but sharing my gift for understanding our patterns, behaviour, emotions and relationships, giving clarity and healing to experiences and situations that people either couldn’t give a name or description to, or that they thought that they would never get over.
You may have to look hard for these, as they can be disguised as really attractive things that lure you in like bait. Focus less on what the person looks like or what they do for a living. One of the reasons I was fortunate enough to end up with my husband was because I had had enough bad relationships to really force myself to understand the underlying feelings I was really longing for. Let the Holy spirit guide you and use discernment to choose the right relationships.
Identify the warning signs and you won’t get trapped so easily next time. Not the on the surface feelings that were based on insecurities I had, like wanting to feel adored. What are the feelings that would help you happily stay in a relationship/friendship forever. Don’t be fearful of getting into new relationships. So take the lessons you’ve learned and trust that you’ll take the right steps forward.They will always blame you-even for their abuse toward you. If only you weren’t so difficult…you made her so upset she couldn’t think straight…your talking pushed him over the edge…and so on.